For over five years, I express gratitute every night for moments of joy, life lessons and growth. It brings me peace of mind. And perhaps has slowly built up a growing sense of the importance of gratitude. Only years after I started my gratitude practice did I learn that science has also found that gratitude is a major path to joy. (Positive psychology researcher Dr Sonja Lyubomirsky calls it a “meta-strategy” for happiness.)
Now I’ve started experimenting with deepening this practice. In addition to listing what I’m grateful for, I mentally go through what I appreciate myself for. I have all my trainers at the Center for Applied Positive Psychology and the VIA Institute of Character to thank, for showing me the power of strengths and how to use them everyday. So naturally, I now celebrate the strengths I use everyday. It’s helping to build a growing love for myself, something critical for us to love others more deeply.
I also then mentally appreciate someone in the work domain and someone in my personal life domain, and celebrate the strengths they showed. This helps me to strengthen my relationships with people.
I call this my special witnessing time; where I bear witness to what’s beautiful and strong in me and others. And I sleep with a warm glow in my heart.
“There was thick black oil at the beach today so I couldn’t swim…but as it happens, something else came along that got me hooked. It flew in the air, gracefully at times, jerky at other times. Someone was holding it by a string. What kind of creature was that? I jumped, trying to catch it! I couldn’t take my eyes off it. And then there was another dog at the beach, and I watched her. Went to the beach wanting to swim but left with some unexpected new enjoyable experiences…”
~ Max who has something to teach us about learning to watch out for blessings in initial disappointments. :)
I asked SBS to pass this personal message to one of their drivers.
When someone does something you appreciate, tell their boss! :) Leave a legacy of gratitude and appreciation.
I like to receive positive feedback when I have done a good job. If you do too, can we give to others what we want ourselves?
Did a waiter/someone in the service line serve you well? Why not fill out a feedback form with some positive feedback and spread some happiness? Or drop a quick note to the company? There’s certainly a time to point out poor service constructively but how could we shift more attention to what we want more of?
Father Bruno Saint Girons and I filled out the above feedback form together at a cafe. He said Alex, the waiter, gave him a big smile after reading the feedback. :) I asked him about gratitude in the Catholic faith and he said “Eucharist” which is the word they use for the mass means “thanksgiving” in Greek. He encourages people to give thanks in their prayers. What does your faith say about gratitude and how do you practise it everyday?
We don’t have to die to leave our legacy. We leave it everyday in many ways, which impact others. What is your legacy when you leave a place?